Update: My husband who left me for a much younger woman...should I confront this woman?

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I was concerned because you have no support and that even though you wanted me to be open and honest I knew it would be hard to actually absorb it. We are on 23 and 24. Other women, however, want what you want—an ongoing, loving, committed relationship.

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Update: My husband who left me for a much younger woman...should I confront this woman?

Our Messy, Beautiful Summer Week 4: Beginning Again A guest post by Jennifer Ball How long has it been? You should really be over it by now. You need to move on. Time to live it up! Hey…it could be worse! I could live to be 124 years old. I could live forever and there are things about that evening I will never be able to forget. How the August air hung low and thick over the patio that night. How the single candle we had burning flickered, back and forth, even though I swear there was no wind. How I could see inside the house from where I was sitting, see the warm inviting glow of the kitchen light fixtures spilling out onto the lovely hardwood floors. How I could hear a neighbor dog barking, barking out to everybody and nobody in the dark. How time slowed down, and then for a few seconds, stopped. That must have been when I cataloged all of these memories. Was our marriage perfect? At least, I thought we were happy. I thought he was happy. I assumed I was happy. Were there warning signs? You must have known. I was up to my armpits in kids. They were little and active and oh my god there were FOUR of them! Our house was old and falling apart, we had cats who sometimes peed in it and my husband left in the morning and came home at night. There were no signs. I had no clue. And then, that night. I feel like I live in a prison. I need some time to myself. He had sunglasses in his hand, I remember that. And as he talked, as he gave me his goodbye speech, he tapped them on the hard table in perfect cadence with his words. Like a fancy expensive metronome made in Italy with the finest polycarbonate glare-resistant lenses. He went inside the house, he was swallowed up in that warm inviting kitchen light and he said goodbye to our babies and then he left. Sometime later, after the lawyers had joined our merry little party, after the shock of being left had begun wearing off, I found out about her. I found out about her. The woman he went to, when he left me. All divorces are different. Those that involve another person though, a Plan B who waits quietly or not so quietly in the wings…those are particularly awful. The scars these divorces leave are jagged and ugly and oh-so-slow to heal. They are disfiguring, at first. You see it every time you look in a mirror. You used to see YOU when you lifted your gaze to meet the one in the bathroom or the bedroom or the hallway. Maybe you were a young and pretty and tired mama. You might have been a woman of a certain age, with some mileage around your eyes and lines on your cheeks that deepened when you smiled big. Now you see the woman who was left. You see the one who was too old or too fat or too cold or too busy or too lazy. You see the one who was left. You will maybe do what I did, and think about ending it, ending your life. Write eloquent, tear-stained goodbye letters to your children, your parents. Hopefully, you will also do what I did and throw them out after writing them. Because you need to stick around. Oh, I could write a book about what this does to your kids. The one who was left. A familiar face, a strong and beautiful face. One world did end. The world of your marriage, that world filled with promises and hopes and dreams, it did end when he left you. But oh, my sweet, strong warrior friend…oh my goodness. While that world disappeared into a black hole of grief and endings, a whole new world was born. And this new world, the one you are in right now? Is it the one you pictured yourself in, all those years ago? The one you imagined while resting your head on the chest of your husband, after the sex happened and the two of you shared that lovely afterglow, embraced in the dark and whispered about the future? But again, I tell you: This new world is YOURS. This new world can be scary. It can be intimidating and overwhelming and at times it can feel impossible to navigate. You will make some mistakes. You will mess up. Because like a baby who stumbles while learning to walk, you recover from each misstep. You get up and you start over. One freaking foot in front of the other, sister. With every day that passes, milestones will be reached. About what they did and where they did it. The first time you laugh. The first time you feel the first-date butterflies. And the first kiss bliss. The first time you realize that somehow, some way, you seem to have forgiven him. The first time it hits you, and I mean really HITS you: You survived being left. You can find her on or cowering in the corner on. I knew as soon as I started talking with him that he would and indeed could help me, I talked all my situation through with him and he began working for me. 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Im not worried about the husband and other woman, or women, God is taking care of that. It sounds soooo familiar! I am 41 and My 41 year old husband of 19 years 3 teenagers well 1 20 year old girl 1 18 and a13 year old boy for a girl that just turned 18 and is about 5-6 months pregnant by him. I thought I was the only one in the universe going through this. Great help from Papa Ork, he is genuine. I truly believe in him and his work. I really enjoyed the result which i got, his love spell is marvelous, he is truly gifted, his love spell has brought me happiness, I am extremely pleased, it worked out to my test, he has the most powerful love spell, I recommend his love spell to anyone who is ready to get his or her lover back, this is his Email: com Wow. I cannot begin to imagine what each female has gone through here. I am 28 years old. My ex-boyfriend convinced me to do my third year of medical school near him. I ended up moving far away to be near him. 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He would have asked me to marry him during that cruise a few weeks later and I would be engaged to a man that had little to no respect for our relationship or me. We would have possibly been married for 20, 30 years before seeing what type of man he really was. A mutual friend told me last week that he cheated on his girlfriend with the neighbor across the hall during undergrad. In December I am moving back to the East coast to begin my last year of medical school. While I am here I am asking God to reveal to me his purpose for bringing me here. What is he trying to teach me? I have already learned so much, but I feel like He is still trying to tell me something. I was crushed when my lover of three years left to be with another woman. I cried and sobbed every day, until it got so bad that I reached out to the Internet for help. I wasted so much time and effort trying to get him back until I hit on the real thing. And that is you, zubair spell. 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I found out that him and the woman he left me for are now married and expecting and you know what?? In fact it was just what I needed to keep moving forward. Good luck to all going through something like this. This netherworld of uncertainty is harder in some ways. See what I wrote above…. It blows my mind. I applaud you and your great attitude. I wanted to believe it was due to his grief. No goodbye, no I am sorry, no nothing. I was replaced just like the snap of your fingers. My best friend, soulmate, lover and husband out the door. I thought i would die. Barely being able to eat, sleep or think. I was at the doctors constantly thinking I was having a stroke all the time. When i realized that he was never returning, I filed for divorce, went to therapy, and joined a divorce survivors group. Although I have come a long way, the memories of our past life still haunt me and are so painful. I pray everyday that I can forgive him so that the hatred that I feel does consume me. I need to let go so that I can move forward. My heart goes out to you. My husband, 73, walked out one night 8 months ago-for the 43 year old woman he had been having an affair with. I filed for divorce because there were no other choices. My husband left me and our 5 kids after 16 yrs together and 10 married. His other daughter is a sweetheart and we always got along. But the 2 with his ex wife have always been bitter. So he goes to work on our daughters 4th bday and never comes home. No explanation no goodbyes to the kids just gone. But now my sadness is turning to anger cause my kids are crushed. I may be in the minority here but I am a man whose wife left him for another woman. She began changing about a year ago. She began going to the gym and working hard and losing weight. She lost a ton of weight and began to look like the woman that I knew before our kids i never complained were born. Then she tarted going out more and more with a group of females. There was always one female there. Her name was Sara. Basically they met up every Saturday night for a month and had make out sessions. The last night that this happened was at the end of February and I had enough. I check the phone records and they had talked to each other over 70 times in 4 weeks on the phone. Then I questioned her about it and she basically told me that she was not happy and needed time to think. There was an affair going on. My wife never asked me not to leave her she just asked me not to ruin their careers. I filed for divorces after she refused to go to counseling. That was 2 months ago. Today I am currently lost and depressed. The woman that I put before everything in this world is now gone with another woman. Not sure where to turn. Surely, you know that this is not about you. Her decision is not normal and does not make sense. If you are a christian, you can pray for her. This is so big that there is nothing else that you can do. You need time to absorb what is happening. Please protect your assets so that you are not left in financial ruin Her behaviour is unpredictable, and she is not thinking straight. You might want to get legal separation papers drawn up so that you interests are protected then wait, and pray. All of this is just my opinion. I pray for you. Also, make sure that you force yourself to get together with your male friends just to keep yourself strong and not overtaken with despair and constant thinking—where you go over things in you mind. This will not help; you cannot make sense of this type of behaviour. Remember, people can do some pretty bizarre and unpredictable things. It is not always a reflection on the person who has been left. King—I re-read your post. You did say that you filed for divorce and that you have children. Try to absorb what is going on. My prayer is that the shock will wear off and you will get a second wind and see the path clearly that you are to take. 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My first love who took my virginity dumped me and I was just siiiiiick!!!! No phone call or anything to check on me; and yes, he knew. My pain turned to anger after i saw he had moved on. I remember calling my close friend crying my eyes out and do you know what she told me? She said to accept it several times. After all I went through, the one he dumped me for he took her virginity too she cheated on him and he was siiiiiiick!!! It always, always comes back. In your case, if he decides to come if you choose to take him back it will be your decision. In the meantime, take care of yourself. Go places with your girlfplaces movies, out to eat, a coffee shop, get a facial anything that will help you stay busy. Go walking and eat ice cream, go to the library, museum, have a picnic with family and friends, even plan a weekend trip. When it happens, you will have a front row seat. Men will only let you see what they want you to see but God can see into his heart and He showed you what kind of heart he has. Pray and ask Jesus for strength, joy and peace. Love Jesus and give your life to Him. Acts 2:38 is His plan of salvation. Take care and I look to hear your updates. I have been in the car ready to just give up it still hurt so much everytime my baby does something for the first time I want to call him I want him to come home and witness it but he picked her and he seems so much happier I used to think magic was bogus but after Martin left me I felt open-minded to try it. Maybe I was desperate too. But this is real! You restored the love we had for each other. And now he proposed as you promised he would! I am your friend forever and very grateful for all of this. I will come back again, very soon contact priest ogidiga call his cell phone on +23481882260982. I am an empty nester. The last of our four left last year for college and then so did my husband. I thought it must be some misunderstanding that I could fix. I thought he will realize what he has left and rush back. I am learning to adjust but I too wrote those letters and ripped them up. Thank you so much for writing this and sharing your strength. I was recently leftleft while pregnant with my first and I am devastated. I know what that feels like to look in the mirror and be the one who got left and to see that person but reading things like this reminds me that this time will pass and it will be my world and I can be happy. Thank you so much. Being left by the person whom you loved, cherished , cared so much for. It hurts to know he left you for her. You cry, you write goodbye letters and plan your suicide. Because God says our pain has a reason. One day God will heal your pain. Your pain will pass, just like mine did. I just found out a week ago that he has been having an affair for months.. As soon as I found out a few days later they already have pictures and videos of them together on the internet for everyone to see. We were still living in the same home and again I just found out about this other women a week ago. He started going and staying the night with her. Then I finally told him two days ago he needs to move out, that he is torturing me.. He has chosen this other women over me and our children and it KILLS me. I believe when he left he moved in with her. I found out my husband has had 3 affairs over the last 9 years of our 14 year marriage, starting when our kids were little. I agree with the article, you are so busy raising your kids and taking care of a house, etc. Throughout this year long process, I have done a lot of reading and therapy and a lot of reflecting. In my case, I have come to the conclusion that my ex was a covert narcissist, and regular narcissists also commonly have affairs. Narcissism has become a buzz word and therefore become grossly over simplified — it is a spectrum and is complex, however once I came to this realization, so many things started to make sense and fall into place. I am sharing with you in case it points you in a direction that is helpful because I have essentially been where you are and I was desperately searching for anything to help me make sense of this. Most people have not gone through this and although they mean well, they can not possibly understand the horrible feeling that someone you love has completely betrayed you and your life is turned upside down. It is going to be a rough journey, it will consume your thoughts for a while, there is no sugar coating it. My thoughts and prayers are with you as you navigate this. The advice you give here is so on point. I am also seeing how I enabled his behavior. He made his choice with only himself in mind and so that frees me up to do the same. My boundaries are never again going to be compromised. I am lucky in that I can use so much of my time to take care of myself , something I always put in the back burner. I realize that throughout our marriage I took care of damn near everyone and everything and I wore myself out compromising myself to make sure he is satisfied. If the cow he moved in with wants to deal with his mess then have at it. I am choosing to look at this a blessing in disguise. Support groups and therapy has been such a life saver because I shave developed so many great, healthy tools to cope. Tools that will be life long and make me healthy and strong physically and emotionally and mentally. The rest will fall into place. Love yourself in the way you require. What I can tell you is that I spent every day in tears for months when it all first happened, now not so much. It still hurts like hell and I still have wobbles but I also now have days where I laugh and smile and have hope for the future even though I am yet to figure out what exactly this might look like. We can do these. We will surpass all the pain that they left on us. There will come a time that when we look back we will just shrug our shoulder off and tell ourselves im glad i pass all the pain and living in peace. But since we already move on, have forgiven and can stand on our own we are happy being a single mom… its up to you if you are going to accept your ex husband or not. God Bless us all! I just feel so used and betrayed when will this not eating sleepless nights crying my eyeballs out go away? Here is the great man who bring my husband back and restored my marriage. My name is kendra and am from United State, This is a very happy day of my life with the help of Dr Thomas has rendered to me by helping me to get my divorce husband back with his magic power and love spell. He started begging me to forgive him that he is very sorry for all the troubles he caused me, i was really surprise and was also happy, so that was how i forgave him and now we are living together happily than ever before,and He always want to be by me and can not do anything without my present. Lynn, my heart is absolutely broken too. My husband of 23 years left August 11, came back a few days later and we did some counseling and even spent a weekend away where it was like old times and talking about our future. Thursday he said that we were ok and Friday said he was filing for divorce. There is so much pain. I so hope the author is right too. Hi Mary and Lila, LIke you, my husband of 32 years left me for a 24 year old Thai Bar girl from Phuket who can barely speak english. I found out about the affair last year and decided to leave the family home so he will miss me. We spent christmas eve last year with a family meal and exchanged gifts. 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We have been together 21 years and I am in total disbelief he is able to do this to me and our family. I know I will feel better however every day the hurt seems to get worse and worse. So just like that my world as I knew it ended and a new one has begun. Was a mixture of his untreated depression and immense credit-card debt he accumulated behind my back. FANTASTIC BLOG POST AND SO GLAD I SAW IT! As I read most of your stories I could see myself. After 11 years I found out he was cheating on me. The day after I found out he left for work and called me that he was not in love with me anymore. The next day he took his mistress to the movies. That was 5 months ago and they still together. He is leaving with his mistress for the last 3 months and is taking the girls to his house already. I have ask him to give time to this relationship before involving the kids, but he does not care. He has not say a word about the baby and I feel so alone and depressed. He us not the man I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. He is not the person I thought he was. How can he do this to me? They have make their relationship public, he introduced her to his parents, his mother disrespected me , called a piece if shit, and garbage, when I went to their house to tell them what his son was doing to our daughters. How can they live with themselves after all they r doing to me. I wonder if I would ever get over this and be happy and find a good man. I feel so alone. He has disrespected me so much, has defended his girlfriend when I called her a slut for knowing I excited and I had a family with this man. She wanted to hit me being 4 months pregnant. She must be desperate for a man. I had been with my partner 18 years 3 kids then got pregnant july. He said he was happy then once i had 1st scan he changed. It was not what he wanted and wanted an Abortion. At 13 weeks pregnant he walked out. I decided to keep the baby and desperatley wanted him to come back home to his family. I went through the pregnancy and labour alone. I suspected there was someone else. Well my son is 3months old and there is and was another women and she is 6 monthes pregnant!! It hurts like hell. He did not want our 4th child but got her pregnant on purpose. He destroyed everything that we had together and the kids was what we shared together. But i am still standig god kows how!! You have to stay strong for your child and unborn baby. You can do this. You are stronger and braver than you know, believe me. I am proud that i kept it all together for my kids and kept my unborn baby safe. And you will too. Its his loss and when he has grown up i promise you he will regret it. Stay strong, keep calm, stay away from drama and hold your head up high. Christine X Thank you for sharing your story. Today I had my first visit with an attorney. We have a toddler together and I am currently six months pregnant with a girl. My husband decided to choose the day my grandpa died to discuss wanting to have sex with other women. I told him that I was uncomfortable with that so no, and he has been cold and detached ever since. His ambiguity on whether or not he has physically or emotionally invested his time in another woman has left me completely nuts. I assumed the worst and felt betrayed that he could do this to us after 9 years of marriage. He will say no if I ask him but he refuses to tell me what I need to hear… What I think every pregnant, vulnerable wife should hear: that I am loved, appreciated and the only woman in his life aside from the obvious female figures. He has left us. When he visits our son, he spends a great deal of time criticizing me over anything and everything. I get hurt, then I cry, then I try to tell him how I feel for the ten thousandth time and for the ten thousandth time, he turns everything on me and builds a wall. Nothing is getting through. I am the definition of insanity. The only thing that makes sense to me is that is at the very least emotionally invested in another woman. He has a history of psychological abuse. The marriage counselor has pointed out his abuse yet he refuses to seek much needed independent counseling. He also controls all the finances. He does give me a few hundred dollars a month to feed our son, our two dogs and myself. There are so many more elements to our situation but ultimately I feel unloved, undesired, undesirable, unappreciated and unable to meet his expectations. I can truly understand all of this crazy stuff. I have been in the sa mm e situation. Been with my ex. I never found him to even be my type. But after coming out of a marriage and him out of a relationship we hooked up. In the beginning it was great. Then one day things just got crazy. This went on for years. Then two months ago on face book I found out that he was seeing this 400pound lady. Then later I found out it was through the help of his children. His children use to come and stay at my house for years was in on this conspiracy. He left me and moved in with her. Gave up everything he owned to be with her. How could this happen, how do you get past the hurt and pain. Time does not heal when your love is real. How and why do people stay so blessed and happy when they sat out to destroy good people. And these thirsty bitches get your man and be happy like they did nothing. What ever happened to God fighting your battles. Seems more like be blesses mess. These are useless men. My husband left me and our daughter to go live with his mom and family. Stay strong and follow God , he has something better for you. Please read about narcissistic personalities …. There is one more thing that you will eventually see in the mirror. You will see that he missed out. Not in a haughty, arrogant way, but you will recognize your own value, and smile back at yourself. You were a precious gift that he let slip through his fingers, in fact, he just tossed you away, ran to another, and moved on. This shatters your heart abruptly into pieces which leave a powdery dust. Forget the glue, this seems to require the sweeper. We can hang on if we just know exactly how long the pain will continue. The pain does end. Your heart will heal, even the bits and pieces that you thought were beyond repair. He does not get to look into your beautiful eyes, or see you gracefully age, or grow old with a wife who truly loved him. Omg I am crying reading this, how your heart has been burst into pieces,into a powdery dust. Thanks for listening I use to believe that God would revenge the man who has betrayed me. But as time goes on people tell me all the time how my ex and his new girlfriend are doing so well going into business together and this and that. People say that God sometimes break your heart to blow your kind. I have been praying every day all day just talking to God. I guess trying to make sense out of all of this mess. I guess God has just giving up on me to. Does make I was just a joke for my ex. And each day as I awake my question is always God why do you keep me alive. How much shame do you want me to experience. I will never live again nor will I ever trust anyone again in my life. So each day I just get up and do the same thing over and over again. Its been six month and it all hurts still like the first day. The Lord loves you my dear sister. You say people are saying they are doing well. Besides why are you busy worrying about them. We have been married for 4 years and together 8years plus. I met him wen I was so young and we fell in love. I didnt care what people said about him that he liked older woman and ol. I was in love with this knight and shining amour. He totally abandoned me. Left me with no food nothing when I was 6 months pregnant. Made his galfriend call me hurting me. I even listened to then kissing and making up on the fone and till now wonder why I allowed him to do all this to me. Even now I also heard hez been sending pictures to his relatives telling them that he has new woman now and she pretty. You know all this hurt me a lot but I have given my life to the Lord. A relationship started on lies and cheating will never succeed. I know the one day yes I will forget about him. I used to pray for the restoration of marriage. This is not my will. Then you have to live with the decision every day…do I fight for this family, or not? Do I hang in there for the kids? Do I hope for restoration? And every chime of the email, every text vibration becomes a dagger. You see a message pop onto his computer screen that teaches you to stop being near him when he is on a tablet or computer or a phone, which is basically always. You watch him go on business trips that you know are not about business. You bottle all of it up and scream and scream and scream on the inside. At some point, the tables start to turn. You stop going through the motions and you actually start doing a little bit of living. You start to laugh again. You watch, as his fantasy world starts to crumble around him. Why is he so unhappy? You realize, that the best thing might actually be for these two strangers to live with their lies, so that you can move toward your truth. You were always good enough. Well I finally realised my husband left me for His mistress today. He up and told me to move to another country only to send for his mistress withing 6 months. My family and my job …In fact my life I left behind for him. It hurts and I want to scream but I have a child from a previous relationship and need to still be there for him. I cant wait to find myself again. For now though all I feel is a hollow dull pain in my spirit.. Well I finally realised my husband left me for His mistress today. He up and told me to move to another country only to send for his mistress withing 6 months. My family and my job …In fact my life I left behind for him. It hurts and I want to scream but I have a child from a previous relationship and need to still be there for him. I cant wait to find myself again. For now though all I feel is a hollow dull a hinge pain in my spirit.. Here is my experience to the world on how i got my lover back and saved my marriage. I really love John so much that i can not even do without. The breakthrough came when someone introduced me to this wonderful man who eventually helped me out with spell… I have never been a fan of things like this but just decided to try reluctantly because I was desperate and left with no choice… He did special prayers and used herbs… Within two days he called me and was sorry for all the emotional trauma he had cost me, moved back to the house and we continue to live happily, the kids are happy too and we are expecting our third child.

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